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Cake day: October 5th, 2025

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  • I wouldn’t go so far as to say it’s offensive, but I can agree it’s disrespectful. Respect is shown by the lengths someone goes through to demonstrate someone/ something is important and held in high regard.

    Examples:

    When you are talking to someone you respect, you demonstrate it by making a point to convey that you are listening to them and thinking about what they are saying.

    When a tragedy happens, we often show respect by holding a moment of silence where we interrupt whatever we are doing to hold a moment to think about the victims.

    Similarly, a traditional way of demonstrating respect for people’s contributions in a given field is through an awards ceremony where attendees both given their attention and dress in formal attire to mark the significance and importance of the event.



  • I think you are wrong about how off-putting your tears are.

    In my experience, when someone loses someone they care about, it is comforting for them for other people to be sad and feel the loss as well. I think that if instead of focusing on your own tears and your embarrassment when you get emotional, if you still focused on the other person while you were crying, they wouldn’t feel obligated to comfort you. Then they could just continue to share with you and be comforted by the fact that you empathized and were moved.

    When my brother and SiL had a stillborn baby, I went to visit them. They genuinely seemed somewhat relieved to see me crying while we visited together.